1. Why are you so anonymous? Can’t you tell us more about yourself than the fact that you like Desperate Housewives?
I’m flattered you’re interested. What exactly do you want to know?
2. Why would I give you money?
Ummm… not sure. Some people have donated because they think I’m funny and enjoy my blog. Others donate because they never had their own dream wedding and want to contribute what they can to someone else’s. Basically, you get nothing out of it other than a sincere thank you from me and the warm fuzzies that come with helping a sister out.
3. You could be some big, fat liar and not a bacon-wrapped-scallop-loving bride-to-be at all. How do I know this isn’t a scam?
I guess you really don’t. I mean, I swear – there really is an engaged chick behind this computer. But this is the internet – I guess you can never be 100% certain where your buck is going once you click “donate.”
4. Will your wedding be on YouTube?
I have no plans to publicly air my nuptials over the internet or any other medium at this time. And if you have read my blog, you’ll quickly figure out that I have no plans in general for my wedding at this time. I’m a hot mess.
5. If you don’t have the money right now for the lavish affair you want, why don’t you just get married at the courthouse?
Because I don’t want to get married where people get divorced and go to jail. If I don’t come up with the cash to cover my every indulgence, we’ll just have to figure out an alternative. I just don’t want to wait til I’m 87 to get hitched.
6. Are you REALLY getting donations?
Yes, shockingly. I get all giddy every time I see another dollar roll in. Or should I say ‘trickle’ in?
7. Shouldn’t you just be happy to be marrying the man you love? Why are you putting so much emphasis on the wedding?
Ahem, OBVIOUSLY I am elated to be marrying the man I love. And I would marry him if we had no choice but to do so in the city dump. HOWEVER! I’d adore to have the wedding that I’ve imagined in my head and don’t want to settle for less if I don’t have to.
8. I’d rather donate my dollar to a real cause. Don’t you feel selfish and spoiled for collecting funds for your little “charity?”
As I communicated in one of my blog posts, helpmepayformywedding.com is not a charity. It’s an experiment. If you’re torn between donating a buck to me and donating a buck to an actual cause, I think you can make that moral decision pretty easily. I don’t feel selfish or spoiled – just grateful that readers are willing to help a sister out!
9. What is your plan for the future of this website?
Once I finally have enough cash to have the wedding I want, I’m gonna get hitched and enjoy a little time with my hot husband-to-be. Then, back to the blog. I can totally envision this site becoming the ultimate resource for the everyday bride. I think that there are a zillion regular, hard-working chicks out there who would adore to have their dream wedding, but financially can not or should not. So they’re forced to forgo things they really want in the name of cutting cost – things like a cocktail hour, or a beautiful veil, or maybe it’s flowers. I don’t think it’s selfish or spoiled to use creative means to get what you want – especially in this economy and ESPECIALLY for your wedding. My fantasy would be to create a community of recent brides, bridesmaids, and brides-to-be who want to help each other out – either by donating a buck, or donating their gently worn dresses to future brides. I’m pretty positive that my entire bridal party would be willing to donate their BM dresses after the big day – all 9 of them. Think about it. Are you REALLY going to wear those shoes again? Might as well pass ‘em off to a fellow size 5 1/2 bride-to-be if they’re still looking great. I’d also love to create a running list of fabulous vendors who’d be willing to give a little love in exchange for some advertising/PR on the site. It could be amazing! Anyway, I’d have to iron out the wrinkles, but that’s the essence. Delusions of grandeur? Maybe. But that’s part of my charm.


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April 13, 2009 at 7:46 pm
mandie Pantoja
I am so glad to see you will turn this into something big for others. That is amazeing. I think that all woman deserve a wedding. I am not saying it has to be huge but they deserve to feel like a princess for the day. PLEASE I encourage you to stick with the vision. I think it would be awesome and me being a bride that can’t afford a wedding I think that it would be awesome to have a place for regular women to go and yes get used once dresses and such. It is an awesome idea. It is something I have wanted to do also but didn’t really know how to get started:)
April 13, 2009 at 11:21 pm
also a bride to be
Are you going to figure out how to get a running total going?
Also, you should read the book “Save Karyn” by Karyn Bosnak, if you haven’t already–she did a “help me pay off my debt” website a few years back. It’s a very entertaining read, and my give you hope of getting money.
April 14, 2009 at 5:29 pm
Stacey
Love your site! It’s such a good idea. I also recently got engaged and to my belief I had no idea what a wedding actual cost. Wow insane right! My fiance and I are getting married on 11-21-09 and are having a great time planning the wedding. I will actually donate tomorrow as I believe every woman should get a shot at her fairly tale wedding. Wish i could donate more but I am too trying to plan a wedding, get a house and all that good stuff. However, My fiance owns his own videography ( http://www.dmodyssey.com) company and if you write me back on my aol email above and let me know what area you live in, we would love to possible help you out with capturing your wedding on video!
Good luck with everything and I hope you get your fairytale wedding!
June 25, 2009 at 11:25 am
Wiggs
I’ve got a question for ya: Have you told your fiance yet? And what does he think?
June 25, 2009 at 8:21 pm
broke bride-to-be
of course I’ve told him – well, I didn’t exactly have to. He saw all my notes and stuff about the site and buying the domain name, etc. By the time I got to be like, “GUESS WHAT I DID?!” he replied with, “what started a website about paying for the wedding?” Eye roll.
Hey, he knows who he’s marrying. Someone, er – enterprising.
September 5, 2009 at 6:27 pm
Bill Bartmann
Hey good stuff…keep up the good work!
September 23, 2009 at 6:57 pm
tondra
atleast one of us brides are getting some help, my fiancee and I dont come from money so we have to do it alone, and still maintain our lifes with 2 great kids it does not matter i will be marrying my love and thats all i need, but it would be nice to have a few things i have had dreams about (our DRESS me and my baby girl) good luck!
September 24, 2009 at 12:42 am
broke bride-to-be
thank you! and best wishes for you and your wedding! xo