As I scoured Google News today for interesting wedding tidbits, I stumbled upon this article on Fox News. If you don’t feel like clicking/reading, the article talks about a study that indicates that couples who live together before marriage are more likely to divorce. Things that make you go hmmmm.
According to the study, more than 70% of couples shack up before marriage. That’s a LOT. And the reason for a higher divorce likelihood amongst pre-hitched cohabitators is that they opt to enter into marriage for reasons other than being insanely in love and wanting to spend the rest of their lives together – i.e. a joint lease, the cats, convenience.
I always considered myself to be very tradish and didn’t think I’d ever live with a guy before marriage – but Fiance and I moved in together way before we got engaged and I’m glad we did. What are your thoughts on living together before marriage?
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July 16, 2009 at 12:22 pm
Fancy
I don’t really believe in marriage for myself, so cohab it is!
July 16, 2009 at 1:33 pm
annonymous
I don’t know how you CAN marry someone without cohabbing. It really changes the dynamic of the relationship, as you see them all the time and don’t have your own place to escape to when you get in a fight, or are annoyed or need space. There’s things you discover about one another when living together that you never do when you live apart. You have to know what it’s like to live with them to know if you do want to spend the rest of your life living with them.
July 16, 2009 at 5:00 pm
becca
there is no way that I would ever consent to marrying someone that I didn’t live with for a considerable length of time before walking down the aisle. my fiance and I have been living together since last July and still find things that we get on each others nerves about. it’s not always romance and flowers, but at least we know if we can live together without the legal ramifications of marriage if we find out that we can’t. i don’t know a single person that would have/ will be marrying someone without first living together. it just makes sense!
July 16, 2009 at 11:08 pm
broke bride-to-be
i must agree. as romantic and traditional as it is to wait until the big I DO before shacking up… it’s kind of asinine when you really think about it. what if you get hitched and discover during week 2 that your new hubby has a really unbearable habit that is an absolute dealbreaker??
July 21, 2009 at 11:57 am
becca
i’m not sure how romantic it is to move in after the wedding day. you’re both less stressed, but after planning a wedding and a move, wow, i couldn’t imagine. are you moving into the new house before the wedding or after? and how much stress is THAT adding to you? at least you don’t need to worry about finding out his bad habits during that time as well.